Healing After Heartbreak: Where Do I Start?

Start by giving yourself time. Take a deep breath and remind yourself that it's OK to feel this way. Even though you can’t see it right now, everything will eventually be fine.

Allow yourself to cry as much as you need. If you feel like venting, reach out to a trusted friend who can support you. This may not be the time to isolate yourself; having someone to lean on can make a big difference.

When you feel ready, it’s OK to remove reminders of the relationship. Pack away old pictures, clothing, or gifts they gave you. You don’t need constant triggers of the past in your space.

I also recommend unfriending or blocking them on social media. This step might feel extreme, but it’s essential for protecting your mental health.

This is not about anyone else’s feelings—it’s about what’s best for you. Consider deleting photos of the two of you from your social media. It’s a way to create emotional distance and start fresh.

As you heal, practice self-care regularly. Take the time to love and nurture yourself—you deserve it.

If possible, limit contact with them. I say “if possible” because I understand that sometimes children or shared responsibilities are involved. If you do need to communicate, keep the conversation focused solely on those shared responsibilities, such as co-parenting or business matters. Avoid discussing your relationship.

Emotions can run high during these conversations, and blame or hurtful words might surface. To prevent regret or unnecessary conflict, set clear boundaries and stick to them. By doing so, you protect your peace and ensure a smoother path toward healing.