Relationship Talk: Listening To Friends
This post is something I have heard a lot in a past relationship as well as it's a topic that can really upset a man especially a man in a relationship. (DISCLAIMER: This may not be a feel good topic or it may not pertain to everyone. This is more or less a mirror post in which you have to dig deep and look at yourself)
So as I previously posted, I am doing self reflection. I am actually studying myself. So with that I have had a tendency to seek others advice or always confided in someone. So much so that GOD himself had to tell me to " Stop seeking others opinions, Stop worrying about what others think worry about what he thinks" Now you know it's bad when God has to speak to you. But that still didn't stop me. The crazy thing is I knew better. But every time I was upset I flew off the handle with emotion and I had to tell someone. Especially if someone did something wrong. Now I was cleaver because I learned early on you kinda can't tell the whole story just what makes you upset seems wrong but I realized when I told the whole story I might actually be wrong and I didn't need that kind of negativity when I was mad. (J/k lol. Kinda serious) But think about it when you are mad the last thing you need is your friends to be on your man's side.
Back to the story
Now this is the serious mirror part.
Your friends may tell you bad advice just to break you guys up. You have friends that may want to secretly see you unhappy. You may also have a friends that see your position as their position or as a relationship that THEY once have been through and give you advice based off that. Or you may have a friend that gives you bad advice and then hides there hands like "Girl , I didn't tell you to do that!" And then you are stuck like chuck. I have been there. You and your mate should make the rules in your relationship not outside parties. What may work for your friends may be just fine for you. Don't let anyone define who you are or what your relationship is. It's your life " Live it Worthy Worth it and Priceless"
Disclaimer: This isn't about an abusive relationship (Mental, Physical or Emotional) or anything along those lines.
Post a Comment