Saturday, September 27, 2014

Saturday Strength

Here is some encouragement late grandma Dorothy Anderson. (Giving encouragement is in my blood)
 Her words still remains true.  Too often life's trials and tribulations stop our growth we get discouraged before we reach the reward.  Just like my grandma said don't let anytime cheat you or stop you.

Wednesday, September 24, 2014

Hairstylist Updates feat: Mz.FlyBeautican & Ooh So Savvy

I am super late on this news but Mz. Fly Beautician & Ooh So Savvy are under 1 roof you can find them both in Salon of Essence located in Buffalo NY.  Below are new pictures from both hairstylist. 


Mz. Fly Beautician herself color by Ooh So Savvy



Pics below are from Ooh So Savvy

Ooh So Savvy herself this picture ONLY style by Mz. Fly Beautician color by Ooh So Savvy






Monday, September 22, 2014

Forget Wifey I want Wife!!

                          

Ok so you have been with this man for years and you have a beautiful child together. You put up his mess. You wash his clothes. You put up with the late nights coming in. You nurse him back to health when he is sick. But still you are referred to as wifey and not wife.
  
    Some women are cool with that. They don’t want the ring. They don’t want the ceremony nothing of the sort. As for me I want the last name I want it all. I think for me its principal. I am not going to be doing all the duties of a wife and not have the title. I have heard “Wifey is a glorified girlfriend” that may be true but I believe I was made for better than that. If you love me why not make that commitment. If you trust me enough to bear your child but you don’t trust me enough to have your last name. So it is the point that our children can have your last name but I am the one who carried your kids, went through morning sickness and all kind of changes it's my body isn’t that worthy of your last name. Really come on!

   Women, if marriage is something that you want you need to voice your opinion about it. Don’t sit ideally by and continue to be in just a relationship going no where if this isn’t what you want. If you want to be married that should be a conversation that happens early on in the relationship so he knows where you stand.

Sunday, September 21, 2014

Don't get lost in the shuffle

   Don't lose your individuality or yourself in a relationship you should always be yourself if someone wants you to change totally then there trying to make you someone else. Don't get to the point in relationships where you will do anything please someone else and in the mist of that once the relationship is gone we lose ourself totally.
    I used to read books called Chick Lit these were books basically about a woman hero and in these books there will be a woman who had it all together and then once she lost her relationship or her boyfriend broke up with her or he left her she lost all of her identity and in the books she basically had to rebuild herself from the ground up.
    What I don't want you to do is be in  a position where you feel as though your loss without the relationship. Or you lose your whole identity without this person when you're in a relationship. A Relationship is two different personalities two different people coming together to make a whole unit but you are still an individual. It's okay to make some minor changes in your life to accommodate your partner.
 Don't lose yourself in a relationship so bad that once it's over you feel dead or you still at so you want to die realize you had a life before this relationship you will have a life after the relationship what's best now is to go forward with your life and make the necessary steps and the right moves with your life.

You will be better than fine.

Know that you are Worthy Worth Priceless.

Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Friday, September 12, 2014

Strength Music





May these songs give you strength in the midst of the storm. Realize you don't have to stay down. As well as God will always see your efforts and reward you for them.

I haven't forgotten about doing videos and such. I want to make sure I am giving you quality messages not quantity messages just because. ---Tammy

Monday, September 8, 2014

Respect Yourself: Set Standards

     Standards are Essential in relationships. It basically set the rules of what you will and will NOT accept. If you don't have standards you will fall for anything.
    What is important is to know NO ONE ELSE CAN TELL YOU THE STANDARDS TO MAKE FOR YOUR LIFE!!
 
        Now that we have the standards conversation done with lets go into titles: The term Ride or Die came from having a woman that will hold you down through life's struggles but for some reason it has taken on different meaning. the title has been used to not only describe a woman who will hold down a man through the test of time, But also a woman who will put up with a mans ish no matter what the cost. examples cheating, outside children, basically turning a blind eye to his foolishness.          This term can mean a number of things to different people so that is why is important that you are aware of the titles you accept. Before you accept a title/nickname ask the person why they call you that. You don't want to be the laughing of someones joke. (I am aware to some the nickname can be harmless. But you want to be woman with your own mind. And not just accepting a name just because its a hip thing to be called.)

      Once again it's YOUR relationship only YOU can make rules for yourself. What I DO NOT  want you to do is be a doormat and accept any and everything your partner puts you through because either you don't want to be alone or lose them. I know that when heartbreak happen we clinch up and we start to doubt our-self. We start to believe that our partner through all of their mess is the best of that we can do. That's not true. You don't deserve to be cheated on. Cowards cheat.

Sunday, September 7, 2014

Worthy Product: Nubian Skin

Nubian Skin – Nude Hosiery & Lingerie for Women of Colour


Introducing: Nubian Skin I am sooo super thrilled about this product. If you can't tell this product is for the woman of color who would like to have nude undergarments. If you have noticed the color NUDE doesn't fit everyone's skin tone. I am so excited for these products it is very hard to find things for women of color most products are NOT created equal color wise.
The online store open in OCTOBER you can sign up on the website for notification when the site goes live.
 For sizes they will start at 30B and go up to 36DD/E that's just for starters according to their website. 



Nude lingerie and hosiery for women of colour.
A nude bra, skin-tone tights / pantyhose – basics of every woman’s wardrobe.  In theory…It’s the grand debate, what do I wear under a white or sheer blouse? What colour hosiery will go with these amazing shoes? Black just isn’t going to work.  The simple answer is nude.  But my nude isn’t the nude I see in shops.  Despite the reality that women of colour have the same needs as all women when it comes to lingerie and hosiery (and spend the same of their hard-earned money), the industry simply doesn’t cater to us.  So, I thought, it’s time to rethink the definition of nude.  Thus, Nubian Skin was born.----from the About-Us section on the website
 



They also will have hosiery too.  once again I am so excited for these products it is very hard to find things for women of color most products are NOT created equal color wise.

Pics are from the Website and Instagram

Thursday, September 4, 2014

Love Yourself


 
 Be your own best friend. Before you listen to anyone else you have to be in tune with yourself.
Take care of yourself.  Spend time with yourself. Take out time just for you.
Make yourself feel special. Take your self out for a date. Realize that you are worth more than you know.